I think one of the most heart breaking things about the church is its failure to minister to singles in a way that gives them encouragement and hope. When I was single, if I even gave a hint of discontent, I was quickly given a lecture by married women on how I need to be…
Afraid to be Me
It's been almost 10 years since my husband and I met on eHarmony, and I just found out that I came really close to never being with my husband. Tonight he asked me, "Babe, why did you make your eHarmony profile so boring? Like you didn't tell about any of the stuff I know about you. …
Morning Glory
When I was young I was afraid to sleep in my room at night. So, most mornings I had the privilege of sleeping next to my mom when she woke up. My mom has gotten up at 4 am for all of my 43 years of life. She says it is her appointment with God. …
Do NOT Awaken Love
I had the chance to talk to a dear friend the other day about singleness and purity. I thought I had a little something to say, since God did not bring my soul mate until I was in my mid-30s. My husband and I both had waited to have sex until we were married. …
The Curse of Ham
Growing up, I went to Christian schools from grades preK-12th grades. I can confirm a very dark truth in the history of evangelical education (notice I left out Christian education). One of the main tenets that was taught in these schools was that black people are a cursed race. I remember my 5th grade teacher…
Forsaking All Others
Been reflecting on things Damon and I have done to keep the connection that we have. We discussed it a bit last night and today. We did something pretty radical I think. As soon as we walked down the aisle, we set firm boundaries with all of our friends of the opposite sex. For me…
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